I thought this would be interesting ,bit boring but who the hell cares this Is not that KCSE Math paper i stared at after i did what i thought i knew....at least i got a D+ THOUGH I TEND TO THINK SOMEONE SLEPT ON THE JOB....okay seriously here i am spending my precious lunch time putting up and together my thoughts on a subject(love life) which even renown psychologists world over are still trying to understand let alone figure out. Researchers pia bado hawajafika kuitoboa hii myth and may not in the next millions of years to come, when i should be in my usual spot sleeping or at least devouring some sort of novel even if its a MILLS AND BOON(Ooh yes i still read them). Anyway picture this Mina meets nice boy, nice boy likes her but what happens next Mina writes him off . He came across as boring, dressed too kawa, mummy's boy or too clingy, stingy even mean to himself, anaishi kwao yet he makes more than 180k, kuwa serious,...WALAI HII NI NINI!
Mina meets boy two, has a decent job, good age but lives in an SQ, talks too much about himself she axes these one too as too proud and bila ambition..Ambition eeh SERIOUSL! Hehe she does not even understand but still how do you date a dude hana kwake?
Then Mina meets boy three.Oooh... looks nice, stable job, dresses well, good company but he ngoas sana (azin extremely) and does not use any cologne so that horrid smell of sweat too much to vumilia- decision made PAP-No way! Hell no . Time for boy number4, everything is perfect, interesting but he is a little bit intimidating, quite mysterious even, oozing confidence and an obvious bad boy but guess what the heart is beating so fast in her chest and its singing loudly..."He is the one..ooh this is the one." She forgets to see how wrong on so many angles he is, many times he is such an ass. Seriously kwani ni how? She refuses to think or to see things as they really are, Does not want to understand this things in there true depictions, throws away caution to the wind, discards the check list she so painfully spent long hours on of what she wants in a man, in a relationship .
HEARD FROM SOMEONE THAT RELATIONSHIPS DO WORK, THOUGH YOU HAVE TO BE ENSLAVED TO PRAYER(no pun intended here). She tries often to make do, to look the other way and often she ends up laughing and pitying herself because all or most of the stuff she has gotten out of this are so superficial. She starts having self doubts... Well but he is so good looking, so handsome as it could be, And when she wrote a list it was all stuff to do with what he can do for her, remember those benefits you can get from a man only, yeah those ones, he is loaded,drive a good car not just any other car, own a hao, mambo ya kurent zii duu bilaz.. pathetic...that is way obvious now.
All this might might sound lame to you but honestly who still writes kind, loving, smiles a lot, handsome only in their ideal man check list? at least not me but it would be a plus if i got the nice things along with stability, security and a comfortable life....anyhow a lot of us women have amuad to live life like that, not so carefree but definitely not uptight or naive to reality. The heart may want what it wants but you cannot let its deception and vulnerability guide your whole life. Sometimes you got to get a hold of your emotions so that you can master the game of life. Do you have to tore the lines? Even if you do it does not guarantee a life without disappointments or hardship...that’s why we are human.. we keep breaking them rules because often than not living by the book sucks, and its usually fun breaking them
I think when other peoples’ suns are setting that when the sunrise for others will take place ...a little bit twisted huh? only to the closed-mind maybe, not me, ask anyone.We work best in the dark, meaning? sijui sana.. but we often give our all or our best in situations that seem so bleak. So who is your i deal man/woman? I believe she/he be at least human to start with, that i am so sure and certain of, not some alien specimen...Are you seriously reading this? taking it seriously? you jua there is days i thought maybe relationships aren’t my thing till i was in one and i was too good at it i started getting too comfy so i got scared and run...now I am back to square one where you start putting things like self belief in place. I honestly don’t know how dem things dem work...i find a way of coming up with my own ways...maybe they ain’t the norm ..or my thing at all but atleast it sort of helps me see how free my thoughts can get. Not good at it yet but NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE,
Before i didn’t take kindly to be ignored, but you know what, its part of life, you will in the very least learn something from it, its hard kidogo tho. I also felt the need to be reassured but shida ni mingi...watu wana shida mob sana hadi mine looks trivial, so f**k reassurance...just live life as it is, or if u need it reassure yourself period or even better call your mother, she is the only one who sees an angel in you...Kiss all that negativity and then i cant attitude goodbye and start living at least...there is someone out there in so much pain, someone suffering from a terminal disease and they know they aint got so much time. You have never believed in yourself? Then time is right to start doing that..i also at one point never believed in myself, it has taken me so long but i knew it starts with me for others to believe in you, realize what you are good at so that they may appreciate or at least realize you are actually good at something...so where had you buried those big dreams...?aah SASA its time to unearth them ! kisses y'all
Wednesday, November 25, 2009
Thursday, October 15, 2009
ALPHA MALE
Alpha males automatically assume a high status position
Alpha males are ballsy enough to be playfully cocky with their humor
Alpha males are confident
Alpha males are masculine
Alpha males aren't afraid to take the lead
In human societies alpha male can mean very different things. Some use the term to mean the guy who seems most at ease with women and can essentially marry or date any woman of his choice. In this sense the alpha male is often good-looking, has a great build, and may have a relatively high socioeconomic status. These distinctions may be less noticed in human groups like high school settings. Generally the alpha males (or a group of alpha males) are the cutest guys, usually muscle-bound, sometimes the “jocks,” while beta males may be less assured around females and may participate in less “male” activities.
The guys who join math teams or play chess at lunch are usually the beta males and may be thought less attractive by girls. It should be noted that “nerds” (and here we use the term fondly and affectionately), are becoming increasingly popular. As long-term mates or “boyfriends,” they stereotypically on average tend to be nicer and more respectful toward girls. This article also does not imply that all attractive males are necessarily alpha. Alpha males are more about exhibiting traits that are essentially masculine or “macho.” Many attractive males are beta to the core when it comes to relating with people.
In work settings, the alpha male may be a natural leader, exuding confidence. But he also may be contentious, demanding and difficult to work with. This is thought to be in part due to the alpha male attempting to retain his stature, however unconsciously, as alpha. Being the top salesperson, the quickest worker, the most aggressive boss may contribute to remaining at the top, and the alpha male has a tendency to respond aggressively to any attempts by others to outshine him.
Though leaders in a company are excellent to have, alpha male characteristics in the workplace may not always be seen as positive. Aggression and disregard for others are not necessarily inspiring. Some people better lead by being “beta” and having good communication skills, sensitivity toward others, and downplaying their strengths so they can showcase the strengths of others.
In adult social settings, alpha males again may be judged not so much by aggression, but by their ability to get the most attractive women as mates. This is the primary reason for alpha behavior in other animals.
The alpha male in adult society is likely to be confident, attractive, and wealthy. Questions remain as to whether the alpha male can retain mates, since relationships often require ability to compromise, to discuss feelings and to be sensitive. Some alpha males have these characteristics typically thought of as beta, but many of them lack such traits. You can certainly point to prominent alpha males in our society who seem to have poor track records with women, either involving themselves in a succession of failed relationships or marrying one woman after another, with no marriage lasting for very long.
The Alpha Male term is commonly used on the hit TV series Survivor (17 seasons). It's applicable to the muscular, stronger males who may dominate physical orientated challenges. They usually don't get voted off in the beginning (need them for team challenges) but they get voted off in the middle of the show (so no-one faces them at the end). The personalities all vary: some are quiet, low key while others are very abrasive, confrontational. Regardless, these guys stick out in the crowd based on their nice physical features.
As humans, we share similarities to other animals, and thus can reflect social behaviors, such as being an alpha male. The Alpha male, where it is present in non-human animal groups, is a being that has characteristics of "leading the pack" in their evolution. Wolves do it because physical prowess and strength, amongst other things, shows that the species will essentially continue to live and succeed. Alpha females support this idea as well. In human animals, female and male roles can both lead to this succession. Alpha roles should be defined in humans as leaders that promote communal succession (thrive, grow and prosper) that harmonize environmentally with our ecology. Managers are not leaders. Corporations are not leaders. Dominators are not leaders. I suppose this might suggest that these leaders would be a yin\yang balance of beta and alpha for humans.
Then everything includes itself in power, Power unto will, will into appetite; And appetite a universal wolf.Shakespeare, Troilus and Cressida.
In everything there is a leader, someone in charge, that person who runs things, the one who stands out from the crowd or pack, that special person whom everyone always seems to look up to and wants them to lead. That is the alpha or number one male. Make no bones about it; the alpha male exists in all species of animals, especially those who cohabit in groups.
At a glance you may think that a pack of wolves or a pride of lions is nothing but a motley collection of wild beasts with no order or system to them. But there is method in their seeming mayhem, as there is a hierarchy, a disciplined order that is never broken, for if it is, punishment will be meted out, swift, just and sure.
Even those wild dogs of Africa, perhaps the most feared hunters because of their tenacity and ability to relentlessly pursue prey until they catch them or the hapless animal simply drops from exhaustion, even they have a social order with the alpha male being in charge. After the hunt, he eats first, and naturally gets the choice cuts. Well, so it is with man, with the alpha male standing out from the rest of the pack, and getting the choice pieces of life, the biggest slice of the pie, and of course the best women. Speaking of women, nature is an equal opportunity employer as some species do have the alpha female, but they are not as numerous as the alpha male. But back to the women.
Didn't I tell you, the alpha male gets the choice females, for that's one of the main perks of being alpha, you get all the fine women. It's good to be the alpha. So throughout history, there have been many notable alpha males, kings, emperors, princes, presidents, dictators, prime ministers, popes, dons, any man who runs things, is in charge, is an alpha male. Some are born to it, others achieve it, while many have it thrust upon them. But those are the obvious ones, the alpha males in the public spotlight whom we read about or see all the time. There are countless others who exist, and here's how to spot them.
The alpha male exudes confidence, that's the most important quality. Without confidence and a great deal of self-esteem, one cannot be an alpha male. With this confidence oozing from his every pore, the alpha male assumes, rightly or wrongly, that the world is his, and everything in it is for his taking.
All before him, especially women are there to do his bidding, and they should be happy, just to be in his company. When he enters a room all eyes shift towards him, women stare in awe, men in dismay and jealousy, for the alpha male is perceived as a catch by women, but a threat by men. "Who is that man who just came into the room?" "I don't know, but he must be somebody, for he acts like he owns the place." In stark contrast, a non alpha male can come and go all of twenty times and no one even notices.
But the alpha male is special. Try and think back to your childhood, or even to the teenage years, and you'll see that alpha males were a breed unto themselves. We’re. they were always appointed form prefects, team captains, class monitors, president of this, chairman of that, executive officer of so and so organization. Anywhere they went; the same guys kept getting leadership positions, while others were just mere drones in the social hierarchy, there to take up space, to follow orders, while the alpha male led. The alpha males were missed if they were absent for even one day, whilst some boys could be absent for an entire term without their absence being noticed. Such is the aura of the alpha male.
With this confidence, the alpha male can approach any female that he desires and put argument to her, usually with a high success rate. This is not to be confused with stupid brash arrogance which is a turn-off. The irony is, women love confident men, and confidence is necessary to approach women, so the alpha male simply cannot lose. Haven't you noticed how some men always manage to get the prettiest, brightest and best women, all the time?
That's because they are alpha males and women are drawn to them. In stark contrast, many men, even with the biggest houses, fanciest cars, large bank accounts, still can't get quality women, but resort to 'buying' pretty, trashy gold-diggers instead. Even in the jungle the females will only mate with the alpha males, for they know that the lineage will be strong.
Some societies call it class, and a classless person who wins the lotto and becomes suddenly wealthy is still a classless person, but now only with money. So you can't become an alpha male through instant riches, it's cultivated. Nobody wants a second-rate, yub-yub, pop-down, low-life man, but would rather be with the alpha male. So the alpha male gets the pick of the females and sires their young. The females are in their power, have no control and are inexorably drawn to them, like the moth to the flame, as they lose control. "I just can't help myself, I know that he has a history with women, and that he uses and discards, but I just can't help it, I'm so drawn to him." Such is the allure of the alpha male.
The alpha male knows how to dress. Not one for gaudy, garish, outlandish, outrageous clothing, he is the master of casual yet elegant understatement but can step up to a stylish suit when necessary. Usually it's those alpha wannabes who dress like peacocks on crack and would be called poppy show by the older folks. With nothing to offer, they depend on their loud clothing to make a statement for them. The fabric screams, "See me here, I'm right here, look at me." The alpha male does not do that, and is usually a picture of sartorial elegance, always well put together, well groomed, and properly colour-coordinated.
You will definitely not see an alpha male in a green shirt, red pants, brown shoes, polka dot tie, diamond socks and a pink handkerchief hanging out of his back pocket. That's no alpha male, that's a secondary joke. Even so, alpha males do not spend all their time grooming themselves and trying to be the ultimate metro sexual. Alpha males are real men, and know that it's natural to buss a sweat now and then and get down and dirty. Alpha males are usually into sports and recognize that the body is a temple and must be respected and kept in good condition. In most cases the alpha male excelled in sports and did well at the prep, primary and tertiary levels. Usually they still participate long into their working life, still finding time to run up and down, adhering to the principle that a fit mind and fit body go hand in hand.
Masters of time management, the alpha male has others looking on in awe and saying, "But how does he find time to do so many things?" Alpha males have a joie de vivre, a zest for life, a positive attitude that invariably lands them in top managerial positions. Alpha males are always in demand, leading some people to say, "But how him so lucky, always getting those great positions?" But it's not merely luck, for the alpha male creates his own luck and turns adversity into opportunity. Take away all that he has, and he will acquire it all over again, plus more.
Alpha males are not overconfident, but also know their limitations. They know what they can do and what they cannot do. So what they cannot do themselves, they delegate to others. That's why alpha males are good managers. Now it's not a question of being handsome, tall, muscular, bright or overly educated that makes an alpha male, but rather an air of confidence, a sense of calm, high self-esteem and a penchant to take charge of situations. Like I said before, some are born to be alpha males, others achieve it, while some have it thrust upon them through situations beyond their control and just have to assume the mantle of confidence, leadership and authority. The alpha male is a special person..
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Alpha males are ballsy enough to be playfully cocky with their humor
Alpha males are confident
Alpha males are masculine
Alpha males aren't afraid to take the lead
In human societies alpha male can mean very different things. Some use the term to mean the guy who seems most at ease with women and can essentially marry or date any woman of his choice. In this sense the alpha male is often good-looking, has a great build, and may have a relatively high socioeconomic status. These distinctions may be less noticed in human groups like high school settings. Generally the alpha males (or a group of alpha males) are the cutest guys, usually muscle-bound, sometimes the “jocks,” while beta males may be less assured around females and may participate in less “male” activities.
The guys who join math teams or play chess at lunch are usually the beta males and may be thought less attractive by girls. It should be noted that “nerds” (and here we use the term fondly and affectionately), are becoming increasingly popular. As long-term mates or “boyfriends,” they stereotypically on average tend to be nicer and more respectful toward girls. This article also does not imply that all attractive males are necessarily alpha. Alpha males are more about exhibiting traits that are essentially masculine or “macho.” Many attractive males are beta to the core when it comes to relating with people.
In work settings, the alpha male may be a natural leader, exuding confidence. But he also may be contentious, demanding and difficult to work with. This is thought to be in part due to the alpha male attempting to retain his stature, however unconsciously, as alpha. Being the top salesperson, the quickest worker, the most aggressive boss may contribute to remaining at the top, and the alpha male has a tendency to respond aggressively to any attempts by others to outshine him.
Though leaders in a company are excellent to have, alpha male characteristics in the workplace may not always be seen as positive. Aggression and disregard for others are not necessarily inspiring. Some people better lead by being “beta” and having good communication skills, sensitivity toward others, and downplaying their strengths so they can showcase the strengths of others.
In adult social settings, alpha males again may be judged not so much by aggression, but by their ability to get the most attractive women as mates. This is the primary reason for alpha behavior in other animals.
The alpha male in adult society is likely to be confident, attractive, and wealthy. Questions remain as to whether the alpha male can retain mates, since relationships often require ability to compromise, to discuss feelings and to be sensitive. Some alpha males have these characteristics typically thought of as beta, but many of them lack such traits. You can certainly point to prominent alpha males in our society who seem to have poor track records with women, either involving themselves in a succession of failed relationships or marrying one woman after another, with no marriage lasting for very long.
The Alpha Male term is commonly used on the hit TV series Survivor (17 seasons). It's applicable to the muscular, stronger males who may dominate physical orientated challenges. They usually don't get voted off in the beginning (need them for team challenges) but they get voted off in the middle of the show (so no-one faces them at the end). The personalities all vary: some are quiet, low key while others are very abrasive, confrontational. Regardless, these guys stick out in the crowd based on their nice physical features.
As humans, we share similarities to other animals, and thus can reflect social behaviors, such as being an alpha male. The Alpha male, where it is present in non-human animal groups, is a being that has characteristics of "leading the pack" in their evolution. Wolves do it because physical prowess and strength, amongst other things, shows that the species will essentially continue to live and succeed. Alpha females support this idea as well. In human animals, female and male roles can both lead to this succession. Alpha roles should be defined in humans as leaders that promote communal succession (thrive, grow and prosper) that harmonize environmentally with our ecology. Managers are not leaders. Corporations are not leaders. Dominators are not leaders. I suppose this might suggest that these leaders would be a yin\yang balance of beta and alpha for humans.
Then everything includes itself in power, Power unto will, will into appetite; And appetite a universal wolf.Shakespeare, Troilus and Cressida.
In everything there is a leader, someone in charge, that person who runs things, the one who stands out from the crowd or pack, that special person whom everyone always seems to look up to and wants them to lead. That is the alpha or number one male. Make no bones about it; the alpha male exists in all species of animals, especially those who cohabit in groups.
At a glance you may think that a pack of wolves or a pride of lions is nothing but a motley collection of wild beasts with no order or system to them. But there is method in their seeming mayhem, as there is a hierarchy, a disciplined order that is never broken, for if it is, punishment will be meted out, swift, just and sure.
Even those wild dogs of Africa, perhaps the most feared hunters because of their tenacity and ability to relentlessly pursue prey until they catch them or the hapless animal simply drops from exhaustion, even they have a social order with the alpha male being in charge. After the hunt, he eats first, and naturally gets the choice cuts. Well, so it is with man, with the alpha male standing out from the rest of the pack, and getting the choice pieces of life, the biggest slice of the pie, and of course the best women. Speaking of women, nature is an equal opportunity employer as some species do have the alpha female, but they are not as numerous as the alpha male. But back to the women.
Didn't I tell you, the alpha male gets the choice females, for that's one of the main perks of being alpha, you get all the fine women. It's good to be the alpha. So throughout history, there have been many notable alpha males, kings, emperors, princes, presidents, dictators, prime ministers, popes, dons, any man who runs things, is in charge, is an alpha male. Some are born to it, others achieve it, while many have it thrust upon them. But those are the obvious ones, the alpha males in the public spotlight whom we read about or see all the time. There are countless others who exist, and here's how to spot them.
The alpha male exudes confidence, that's the most important quality. Without confidence and a great deal of self-esteem, one cannot be an alpha male. With this confidence oozing from his every pore, the alpha male assumes, rightly or wrongly, that the world is his, and everything in it is for his taking.
All before him, especially women are there to do his bidding, and they should be happy, just to be in his company. When he enters a room all eyes shift towards him, women stare in awe, men in dismay and jealousy, for the alpha male is perceived as a catch by women, but a threat by men. "Who is that man who just came into the room?" "I don't know, but he must be somebody, for he acts like he owns the place." In stark contrast, a non alpha male can come and go all of twenty times and no one even notices.
But the alpha male is special. Try and think back to your childhood, or even to the teenage years, and you'll see that alpha males were a breed unto themselves. We’re. they were always appointed form prefects, team captains, class monitors, president of this, chairman of that, executive officer of so and so organization. Anywhere they went; the same guys kept getting leadership positions, while others were just mere drones in the social hierarchy, there to take up space, to follow orders, while the alpha male led. The alpha males were missed if they were absent for even one day, whilst some boys could be absent for an entire term without their absence being noticed. Such is the aura of the alpha male.
With this confidence, the alpha male can approach any female that he desires and put argument to her, usually with a high success rate. This is not to be confused with stupid brash arrogance which is a turn-off. The irony is, women love confident men, and confidence is necessary to approach women, so the alpha male simply cannot lose. Haven't you noticed how some men always manage to get the prettiest, brightest and best women, all the time?
That's because they are alpha males and women are drawn to them. In stark contrast, many men, even with the biggest houses, fanciest cars, large bank accounts, still can't get quality women, but resort to 'buying' pretty, trashy gold-diggers instead. Even in the jungle the females will only mate with the alpha males, for they know that the lineage will be strong.
Some societies call it class, and a classless person who wins the lotto and becomes suddenly wealthy is still a classless person, but now only with money. So you can't become an alpha male through instant riches, it's cultivated. Nobody wants a second-rate, yub-yub, pop-down, low-life man, but would rather be with the alpha male. So the alpha male gets the pick of the females and sires their young. The females are in their power, have no control and are inexorably drawn to them, like the moth to the flame, as they lose control. "I just can't help myself, I know that he has a history with women, and that he uses and discards, but I just can't help it, I'm so drawn to him." Such is the allure of the alpha male.
The alpha male knows how to dress. Not one for gaudy, garish, outlandish, outrageous clothing, he is the master of casual yet elegant understatement but can step up to a stylish suit when necessary. Usually it's those alpha wannabes who dress like peacocks on crack and would be called poppy show by the older folks. With nothing to offer, they depend on their loud clothing to make a statement for them. The fabric screams, "See me here, I'm right here, look at me." The alpha male does not do that, and is usually a picture of sartorial elegance, always well put together, well groomed, and properly colour-coordinated.
You will definitely not see an alpha male in a green shirt, red pants, brown shoes, polka dot tie, diamond socks and a pink handkerchief hanging out of his back pocket. That's no alpha male, that's a secondary joke. Even so, alpha males do not spend all their time grooming themselves and trying to be the ultimate metro sexual. Alpha males are real men, and know that it's natural to buss a sweat now and then and get down and dirty. Alpha males are usually into sports and recognize that the body is a temple and must be respected and kept in good condition. In most cases the alpha male excelled in sports and did well at the prep, primary and tertiary levels. Usually they still participate long into their working life, still finding time to run up and down, adhering to the principle that a fit mind and fit body go hand in hand.
Masters of time management, the alpha male has others looking on in awe and saying, "But how does he find time to do so many things?" Alpha males have a joie de vivre, a zest for life, a positive attitude that invariably lands them in top managerial positions. Alpha males are always in demand, leading some people to say, "But how him so lucky, always getting those great positions?" But it's not merely luck, for the alpha male creates his own luck and turns adversity into opportunity. Take away all that he has, and he will acquire it all over again, plus more.
Alpha males are not overconfident, but also know their limitations. They know what they can do and what they cannot do. So what they cannot do themselves, they delegate to others. That's why alpha males are good managers. Now it's not a question of being handsome, tall, muscular, bright or overly educated that makes an alpha male, but rather an air of confidence, a sense of calm, high self-esteem and a penchant to take charge of situations. Like I said before, some are born to be alpha males, others achieve it, while some have it thrust upon them through situations beyond their control and just have to assume the mantle of confidence, leadership and authority. The alpha male is a special person..
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Tuesday, October 13, 2009
My lousy day
Today has been great, it started off really well until the end of the day when all came tumbling down, i have been waiting for clients feedback the whole day then just when i wanna leave for home they send me there response how now.
Anyway i decided to just hang back and work, its almost 8 in the night but considering the crazy Nairobi traffic i accepted a Karaoke date from this two hot Naija boys i met during our MTV Africa Music Awards,
i pray it does the trick of cheering me up because as of now i feel right now, hmm quite lousy, tired and lonely but at least they are kinda cute though, too cultured than my Kenyan broadas so lets cross our fingers that the evening will bring back joy in ma life...... it has to
Especially after i had such a busy weekend .....and that mama saying she doesn't have time to deal with young girls with no common sense, that's was quite a catchy phrase i should say..because really what does common sense have to do with being young?
Anyway i decided to just hang back and work, its almost 8 in the night but considering the crazy Nairobi traffic i accepted a Karaoke date from this two hot Naija boys i met during our MTV Africa Music Awards,
i pray it does the trick of cheering me up because as of now i feel right now, hmm quite lousy, tired and lonely but at least they are kinda cute though, too cultured than my Kenyan broadas so lets cross our fingers that the evening will bring back joy in ma life...... it has to
Especially after i had such a busy weekend .....and that mama saying she doesn't have time to deal with young girls with no common sense, that's was quite a catchy phrase i should say..because really what does common sense have to do with being young?
Thursday, July 9, 2009
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